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GRACIE: Inspired by grace (eloquence or beauty of form, kindness, mercy, favor), which is derived from the Latin gratia (favor, thanks). The name was made popular by 17th-century Puritans, who bestowed it in reference to God's favor and love toward mankind.

When I met Josh, my now husband, I didn't know anything about him and honestly I didn't want to know anything about him haha :)  He had just started the same job as me but a month earlier than me and he had just became a supervisor.  All I knew was I DID NOT want "that guy" to be my supervisor! Once he added me on social media, I did find out that he was married and he appeared to have some kids from what I could tell (I will give you more information on Josh and I later.)  Fast forward a couple years later to when he became single and pursued me and I knew by then that he had a two year old daughter named Gracie.  I didn't meet her until 10 months later (now 3); I remember I was on my way to see Josh and he sent a text that said "I have somebody here who wants to meet you."  I knew exactly who he was talking about and my heart was beating out of my chest.  When I pulled up, she was outside with him and she had long blonde hair down to her butt, a beautiful, chubby face, and she was wearing an orange apron like she had been to a Home Deport workshop.  He brought her over to me and she was shy but in her tiny voice she said hi to me.  She didn't talk but I remember she just looked at me.  The next few times I was there she would sit on my lap and play with me and pretty quickly she brought up playing house and she would assign me the mom and her the baby.  I got to hang out with her more and more; she was always on my side because we were GIRLS and I would get her cool clothes and do her hair and before I knew it she wanted to change her last name to mine hahaha :)  I have been here for her first cuss word, learning to wipe her own butt,  her first hair cut, AND I taught her that she did not have a weiner!  I hadn't experienced anything like being a mom role model and even though we bonded easily, she has tested me A LOT!  She is beyond smart and she has always been way too mature for her age so she knows what is going on around her, she knows how to push people's buttons, she knows what to say and when to say it, she is just smart.  There were several times I thought to myself "Can I do this?  Can I be a bonus mom?  Can I be silent to let the biological parents handle things?"  Those are just some of the thoughts I had.  Well I decided I could and here we are almost 6 years later.  Nobody test my patience like Gracie, my mom and husband are a close second, but she knows me best I think and so she knows how to get me going.  She is ahead of the game in all of her school work, she is kind to others, and she has been a great help with taking care of her little sister.  Some facts about Gracie

  • Her birthday is February 17th
  • She loves gymnastics, cheering, and dancing
  • She is a talker
  • She can't keep a secret unless it is her secret about boys, then it is safe
  • She wants all the attention, all of the time
  • She is comparable to a 12 year old
  • She wants to be a vet














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